她總是零晨四時還是醒着因為患末期癌症的爸爸不定時叫喊，她說，以往都是因為要換片而叫，已經不知多少個晚上，未可以一覺睡至天光，未睡足就要上班。跟妹妹就好像在經歷可怕版的狼來了故事。後來不只是幾次，而是一天二十四小時每隔一會就叫。有時叫得好慘好大聲。
家中只有她跟妹妹，還要換尿片等。她爸爸也因為躺着床上時間長已背上生瘡。
大約兩星期前，她爸爸離世了，然後上周她跟我說：「昨晚同呀妹傾左陣，佢傷感啲我見到佢喊，我都流淚。不過傾下又好啲。我琴晚發夢見到爸爸同媽媽，我地成家人一齊又見到LAP 既兩隻狗狗🙈🙈」怎麼會！你都無養狗！
「係貴婦狗。有隻應該係你家的，白色既。我喺夢裡面仲話佢地啲毛好滑。They comfort me，不過都關我琴晚同妹妹講我遲啲要領養狗狗。」
Hey, 我屋企隻狗唔係白色的。但跟住出現了一隻白色隻眼盲盲地嘅狗狗要找暫託家庭，於是我問佢啦，又問了好多其他暫託家庭要不要幫這隻狗，她很快就答了好，我以為佢講笑，問佢係唔係真係要foster, 總之最後就foster 緊了! 我又送咗本自己嘅書俾佢(yikes, 我總係覺得呢個行為好古怪, 好似好自戀咁，我真係咁嘅意思的。咁但係因為係relevant topic 丫嘛 >.< 希望佢會鍾意）
其實我本來是想講去年四月我在誠品做了一個Book Talk [以繪本認識生死], 關於最後的告別那本繪本。有時做Book talk 有個難處，不知道來參與嘅人係乜嘢人，教育工作者丫，定係剛喪親嘅人。
那次前排都是小朋友，that's not a good sign, 因為通常個talk 都係講做呢本書嘅過程，以前跟喪親輔導機構的社工遇見過嘅case 等，好多家長會以為係一個繪本talk , 然後中途離開。
我請大家在一張小小的紙上寫低 what comes to their mind when we think about death. 自己拿住就可，不用跟大家分享。最後這班小朋友留了整個talk, 我問有無人想分享吓自己寫或者畫咗乜嘢, Only the brave kids put up their hands .
⚰️*pic 2 (little girl drew her dad in a coffin) and herself next to it. The family came cuz the dad very very recently passed away. .
🦊*pic 3 is 6 years old boy with his passed away corgi, his eyes were immediately in tears talking taking about the corgi that passed away “long ago.”
I gave them stickers and postcards to thank them for sharing. . 🥰It’s so true that death is always around us, and One audience said we shouldn’t focus so much on death and after death but more on treasuring everything we have now, (but my book was written to explain death :p to ppl who r grieving ) however it’s so very very true!
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