書房

昨天出席了這個活動【生死書房 -- 兒童哀傷輔導與繪本】
主辦：香港生死學協會 X 贐明會 X 綠腳丫 X 拉法醫治中心
題目1：《最後的告別》x 繪本 / 閱讀治療
講者：繪本作者貓珊，贐明會輔導員李秀英姑娘及梁嘉儀姑娘

有多過一百名出席者，真意想不到啊。本來以為還在醫院出席不了。
多數參加者其實都從事這方面的工作，有學校社工、從事新式殯儀工作的、於兒童癌病基金會工作的、遊戲治療師、藝術老師、遺體防腐師什至兒科醫生等等。
分享會後，他們也跟我分享在輔導和心理治療中用這本書的情況 - 大家都說好喜歡，尤其因為這本書以香港為背景。
雖然我們 - 編輯、社工等，每一個人做這本書時都是百二分的認真，但在我中目心這本書還可以更好(大概世上大多數事情都這樣子），不過聽到大家都好喜歡並覺得在輔導工作中用得着真的很感動。
喪親輔導工作的贐明會秀英姐姐真的很有經驗，沒有她跟我分享，也不可能做到這本書；而木棉樹的雅文編輯都是十分資深的，大家都能肯定地說，書中沒有一隻字是多餘的，每一隻字都有意思和作用。
可以做自己一直想做的事情而又可以幫到人，真的令我心裹感到十分十分幸福。
記得周二入院那早上，隔離床的媽媽離世了，只有四十六歲，還有兩個年輕女兒。一家人圍在床邊，又哭泣又自責。在日常生活中，可能好多人覺得死亡是好遙遠的事，但其實每一個人都有機會經歷到的。
昨天有位從事哀傷輔導工作的女士拿起咪問問題時一直說不出話來，因為自己也即將面對親人離去，她問秀英姑娘：「如果知道死亡即將會發生，該什麼時候開始跟小朋友講？」秀英姑娘說：「所有準備都準備唔切的，就算親人一直知道那人患了好長時間的病，知道他總有一天會過身，心裹邊預備了好耐，但到真正死亡來臨時，做了幾多準備都會覺得唔得的，世上不會有萬全的準備，就算我們以為自己已經好好準備了，到真正發生時亦可能很不同，但到時候不用自責，為自己增添不必要的罪名，只要做了可以做的就已經好足夠了。」

Yesterday I went to a Book Sharing organised by Society for Life and Death Education
The Society for Life and Death Education is a charitable and non-profit organization, founded by healthcare professionals, lecturers, social workers and religious figures.
There were more than 130 participants, I was so surprised by the turnout! : )
Most participants works in related field and do bereavement counselling etc. It means so much to hear feedback from them, and to know that they find the book useful and meaningful in their counselling and therapy sessions.
The bereavement counseling charity social worker talked about book therapy and I talked about the book making process.
It also reminded me that early this week when I was admited to the hospital, my immediate neighbour in the ward just passed away, she's a 46 years old mom to two young daughters. The whole family were in deep grief.
I guess in normal everyday life, we barely think about life and death issues, but it is an experience that nobody can escape.
I feel so tremendously lucky that I am able to work on these projects, something I always dreamt of since I was a kid, and that it could help other people.
Yesterday morning I was being borrowed “to be a patient” for the medical student examinations! One of the professor/examiner said “一早知係你就攞本書俾你簽啦“😹😝 But actually the book he mentioned was not this book, he read one of my unpublished book on my journey as a junior patient/chronically ill patient, wonder how he saw it!!! I wish I could rework on those books again some day and that it could help more people ❤️